Toxic people & relationships

Let me start off by saying I know how hard it can be to let someone go, especially when they mean so much to you, especially when you can't see how toxic they are. I have been in situations where the people I thought were my friends, have actually been toxic. Being around toxic people is not good for your inner and outer self. A lot of these "friends" I had were not friends at all. Their entertainment was creating unnecessary drama, forever gossiping about who got dumped or who slept with who or bitching about a girl they don't even know. They turned out to not be who I thought they were and someone I didn't like.

I know a few people, who are now some of my closest friends, be dragged down by someone else's toxicity. One friend, still so hooked onto her toxic ex-boyfriend cries to me all the time because she just can't let him go despite breaking up almost a year ago. The ex-boyfriend who cheated, lied, betrayed, led-on and faked his feelings for my friend. I get it, they were together for so long, she loved him but she can't see how toxic he is for her and to her. His toxicity keeps on dragging her down, making her feel worse, making her want to burst into tears every single day. She keeps comparing herself to his new girl which just breaks my heart because my friend has no idea how amazing she is.

Physically, mentally and even spiritually, latching onto toxic people is bad for you. The way I would describe a toxic person would be that they are quite negative. They're judgemental and gossips about other people behind their back. They don't care about your feelings or what they do to you. They'll betray you, make you feel bad and terrible, especially for the things you love and are passionate about. They will always cause pointless and unnecessary drama. 

Being around negative vibes and negative people will make you feel negative too. There's no support or encouragement to be a better you. There's no lift or sparkle (excuse me whilst I fail at describing what I'm trying to say) These people will bring you down with their constant negativity and toxicity.

At some point in our lives, we will definitely come across some toxic people. In my first year of University, I myself definitely encountered some horrible people. It took me a whole uni year to finally understand that they were toxic and that I have to let them go. They dragged me down, mocked me, laughed about the things I love and was passionate about. One of them laughed and called me a nerd because I have a blog??? They made me feel like crap to be honest. I was negative because I was hanging around negative people.

Most importantly, it is okay to cut them off. Whether they are your best friend, boyfriend/girlfriend or even family. It is not selfish and it certainly doesn't make you a bad or horrible person. If they don't contribute to your happiness and make you feel good inside and out, then let them go. If you are surrounded by negative and horrible toxic people, it's okay to cut them off to make yourself feel better and become better. You cannot be a better you and achieve amazing things if you are constantly surrounded by bad vibes created by these toxic people.

Like I said before, I know it can be hard to let go of these people, the people you love and care about, but just think, how much do they love and care about you if they are willing to bring you down, make you feel bad, manipulate you, not support you or encourage you? The answer is they clearly don't. So let them go. 


  1. I couldn't agree more! It's important to get rid of the toxic people in your life, though it can be really hard sometimes!
    Have an awesome day!
    xx Kris

  2. Great post!

    You have a nice blog!

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    Have a great day!

    xoxo Jacqueline

  3. I've experienced a toxic friendship before and it's never fun, I think it hurt more letting them go as we had been such close friends since age 5.
    Really thought provoking post :-)